You realize that the marriage is not working. For a long time now, you and your spouse have not been fulfilling each other's needs. You've grown apart. Maybe one or the other of you has looked outside the marriage for a satisfaction of needs, which has led to deterioration of trust. Layers of blame and … [Read more...] about Framing The Divorce Process
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Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde in Mediation
Often lurking under the surface of what appears to be strictly legal or financial questions are issues that can be considerably more important than money to the people involved: questions of identity, of saving face, of fighting for one’s honor or one’s dignity, of finding one’s voice and one’s empowerment, of saying no to abuse, or neglect, or dishonesty, of holding onto one’s own sense of self, … [Read more...] about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde in Mediation
Introducing Integrative Mediation When Assisted Reproductive Technology Goes Wrong
Family planning is way beyond what it once was - sex for reproductive purposes. Now, babies are being formed in test tubes and petri dishes in countries all around the world! What follows is an emerging area in the law - Assisted Reproductive Technology, or ART. As usual, the progress of society and the development of cultural trends are far ahead of the law in this specific arena. Said another … [Read more...] about Introducing Integrative Mediation When Assisted Reproductive Technology Goes Wrong
Creating a Parenting Plan Using Integrative Mediation
Using integrative mediation to create a parenting plan results in a workable plan that is in the best interest of the children. Both parents are more likely to comply with a parenting plan that they themselves created. Having a lawyer as a mediator ensures that the parents get information about legal issues that may be associated with parenting plans, such as whether each parent has the … [Read more...] about Creating a Parenting Plan Using Integrative Mediation
Five Things to Consider About Dating After Divorce
It may be you decided to get a divorce because you were in a marriage that had not been working well for some time and you could not see that it would ever get any better at meeting your needs. Or, you thought your marriage was good enough and that it would last into old age only to be faced with your life partner telling you they don’t feel the same and want a divorce. No matter what the … [Read more...] about Five Things to Consider About Dating After Divorce
Integrative Mediation: A Groundbreaking Approach to Divorce that Saves Couples Time, Money & Trauma
Divorce is never easy, but many divorcing couples are reducing the emotional trauma and financial burdens of splitting with an innovative approach to divorce settlement that addresses both the legal and emotional issues at the heart of the conflict. Unlike the traditional adversarial model of divorce, Integrative Mediation is non-adversarial and designed to resolve contentious issues and … [Read more...] about Integrative Mediation: A Groundbreaking Approach to Divorce that Saves Couples Time, Money & Trauma
Keep Your Conflict Demon-Free
Our minds are capable of many wonderful things, from language to love. Descartes went so far as to conclude that using our minds proves that we exist. But minds are tricky things and even the best ones are not perfect. Indeed, so widespread are many of the mind’s imperfections that psychologists have given them names. Things like “confirmation bias”—the tendency to give more weight to evidence … [Read more...] about Keep Your Conflict Demon-Free
THE IMPORTANCE OF THE LANGUAGE WE USE
How we talk to ourselves and how we talk to others has everything to do with attitude, frame of mind and ultimately our actions. In divorce if we think of ourselves as adversaries and use adversarial language, our frame of mind will be confrontational, adversarial and lead to an expectation of the worst rather than the best from the spouse we are engaged with in a dissolution of … [Read more...] about THE IMPORTANCE OF THE LANGUAGE WE USE
Full Disclosure in Integrative Mediation
Integrative mediation is a specialized form of divorce or separation mediation that involves two neutral third parties: a mental health professional and an attorney. With these two neutral professionals assisting a couple through the mediation process, a more comprehensive and meaningful resolution can often be reached. One of the main keys to a successful integrative mediation is the concept of … [Read more...] about Full Disclosure in Integrative Mediation
WHY ARE YOU AND YOUR SIBLING FIGHTING OVER YOUR PARENT’S HOUSE?
Your parent died a few months ago. That, in and of itself, is tragic enough. You’re neck deep in the grieving process and unsure how to do it justice. You’re overwhelmed by the notion that many legal and financial things need to be taken care of to administer Mom or Dad’s estate. To top it off, your sibling is arguing with you everywhere you turn, demanding things be done a certain way, the way … [Read more...] about WHY ARE YOU AND YOUR SIBLING FIGHTING OVER YOUR PARENT’S HOUSE?
Using Integrative Mediation
To Resolve Probate, Trusts and Eldercare Issues. “Winning” by proving in open court that your mother or father is failing mentally, or that your sibling has taken money or improper control of family funds, is traumatic and expensive.[i] Integrative mediation can offer a more relevant and satisfying alternative. By using both an attorney and a mental health professional, … [Read more...] about Using Integrative Mediation
Using Integrative Mediation to Resolve Probate, Trusts, and Elder Care Issues
“Winning” by proving in open court that your mother or father is failing mentally, or that your sibling has taken money or improper control of family funds, is traumatic and expensive.[i] Integrative mediation can offer a more relevant and satisfying alternative. By using both an attorney and a mental health professional, integrative mediation brings a unique resource which expands the … [Read more...] about Using Integrative Mediation to Resolve Probate, Trusts, and Elder Care Issues