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A newer model that may just have exactly what you need Many of you reading this blog may be familiar with litigation and mediation. Some of you may also have heard of collaborative divorce. But I'm guessing few of you have heard of Integrative Mediation because it hasn't been around that long. What Is Integrative Mediation and Why Should We Choose It? Integrative Mediation (IM) is … [Read more...] about Three Reasons to Divorce Using Integrative Mediation

The decision to divorce is a huge one. But the next biggest decision you will make is the type of divorce you want. If you want a “good divorce” — one that is amicable, based on mutual cooperation and fairness — don’t leave it to chance. This article will outline the secrets to a good divorce, and explain why mediation is the best choice you can make. We have all seen “bad” divorces. These … [Read more...] about Secrets to a Good Divorce

Whether you are the one who has been contemplating divorce or you are the one who hearing about your spouse’s decision, the whole idea of divorce so easily brings up so many fears about what the future holds. Where will I live? Will I have enough money to live on? What will happen to our children? And on and on and on. I call those “catastrophysing thoughts” – thinking that divorce is about … [Read more...] about Divorcing? First Agreements That Will Make All The Difference

Let’s face it — it’s hard to end a marriage without some degree of anger, resentment, disappointment or guilt creeping in. In the old days, it was expected that divorcing spouses would basically be enemies for the rest of their lives. We know now that is unnecessary. Most people, given the choice, want to have an amicable divorce. Yet, intense emotions such as anger, grief, fear and mistrust … [Read more...] about Seven Reasons to Forgive Your Ex

You’ve been together for years and now one or both of you have decided it is no longer possible to stay together, not even for the children. You are sad at the loss of the vision for the future you would have had together and may be concerned/frightened about what comes next. Had you been together without having children, you would have had the option of saying goodbye and not having to maintain … [Read more...] about Co-Parenting During and After Divorce or Separation

Why Integrative Mediation Would Have Helped Me. In Part One of this blog, I discussed the problems with letting a judge make your divorce decisions and the painful experience my ex and I had during our divorce 10 years ago when Integrative Mediation was not available to us. Integrative Mediation is an interdisciplinary divorce process which helps the parties to make decisions and not the … [Read more...] about The Smartest Divorce Decision You Will Ever Make: Part II

So, you are getting a divorce.  As a couple you can choose Integrative Mediation over litigation and avoid letting a family law judge decide important questions. Will you ask a judge to decide: Where your children will live? Where they will go to school? Whether and when they will receive medical treatment? Whether you will be paying support that will bankrupt you? Whether … [Read more...] about Smartest Divorce Decision You Will Ever Make: Part I

Your feelings around your spouse’s infidelity are natural, understandable and important. Feelings of hurt, anger, betrayal, shock, rage, and grief are to be expected when one’s partner has been unfaithful. Your feelings around the affair, whatever they may be, are in the room while we are negotiating, and we have to acknowledge and deal with them if the negotiations are to go smoothly. Your … [Read more...] about My Wife Had an Affair—Do I Have to Pay Her Alimony When We Divorce?